2025-11-14 20:20:00
One of the more important work lessons is to be someone who knows how to say no.
Every once in a while, you will see a horrible idea being proposed. When that happens, you need to be unequivocally clear that your answer is a “no way.”
In all the other cases, the goal isn’t to shut an idea down with a “no”. It’s to help others understand what it would take to get to yes, and to help them get there.
It’s an easily forgotten truth: the job isn’t about pointing out why something won’t work. It’s about using critical thinking and healthy skepticism to strengthen the eventual solution.
Saying no is easy.
Helping someone get to a better yes – that’s leadership.
2025-11-13 20:17:00
It is amazing how the answer to so many conundrums in our lives and careers becomes so much clearer when we are able to answer the question – what are you solving for?
2025-11-12 20:23:00
One of the signs of being well-rested is that the body doesn’t need an alarm to wake up.
It knows enough to wake us up early when there’s work that needs to be done.
Rest well enough, and our body and its internal clock work in sync.
2025-11-11 20:32:00
Beware spending your life seeking validation from people who don’t really care about you.
It’s one of the easiest traps to fall into – shaping your choices and maybe even your dreams around the approval of people whose opinions won’t matter in the long run.
When in doubt, focus on the validation of the person you see in the glass.
“You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years,
and get pats on the back as you pass.
But your final reward will be heartaches and tears
If you have cheated the man in the glass.” – The Man In The Glass by Peter Dale Winbrow Sr
2025-11-10 20:10:00
Someone said recently that their partner has a simple maxim – in the final analysis after this life is done, the only question you’ll be asked is – did you make the most of your gifts?
It is a beautiful question.
A reminder to do the best we can with what we have where we are.
There can never be enough such reminders.
2025-11-09 20:27:00
I came across this thought provoking post titled “Why Architecture Matters.”
It starts by explaining the “why” behind Gothic architecture.
Staying in London, take the example of Westminster’s great Gothic church. Its pointed arches and lofty spires give the sense of upward movement. Its wide base adds a feeling of groundedness and solidity. Its fine embellishments like stained glass and carved arches suggest that even on the grandest of scales, no detail is too small to be overlooked.
This style of building emerged in Europe in the 12th and 13th centuries, and is a perfect reflection of the deepest beliefs of Europe in the late middle ages. Medieval architects took for granted that man’s purpose was to journey toward heaven, which is why they built a sense of upward motion into their cathedrals. Yet they also knew that in order to do so, you must stay grounded in your earthly life — and thus they gave their buildings a solid foundation, both functionally and visibly.
Most importantly, however, they believed that beauty has moral power. The designers wanted to create a building that would ennoble and inspire every person who walked in. They filled their churches with painstaking detail so that every aspect offered an encounter with the kind of beauty that draws man toward the divine.
It then makes a powerful point – Whether a building’s designers are conscious of it or not, architecture always tells the story of a culture’s values. That’s why if you want to know what your culture believes today, you should look at what it builds.
In doing so, it examines the difference between architecture in the US vs. Hungary. American cities are designed around the car. Perhaps it means efficiency is valued more than beauty – a result of a mindset focused on productivity.
Prague, on the other hand, looks and feels different – a result of a culture that prioritized beauty, prayer, connection to the past, and staying connected to one’s community.
It ends with a beautiful note.
In an age that claims all beauty is in the eye of the beholder, it’s worth reminding ourselves that architecture is never neutral. In fact, it is arguably the best physical embodiment of what a culture believes and how it lives. It is shaped first by our values, and then reinforces those same values in us.
Next time you go out, be sure to take a close look at your house, your church, your pub, your city. Try to read the values that underlie the physical building. What do you see?
And perhaps more importantly, what would you like to see instead?
It resonated.
